MY STORY

I have been through dark times myself when I’ve struggled to see any future, let alone a brighter one. My childhood was blighted by my mother’s addiction to alcohol. Soon after the difficult birth of my daughter, my father-in-law died of leukemia and then I slipped a disc which left me bed-ridden, dependent on painkillers and unable to care for my family. When my own mum died soon after, things spiraled out of control. I became deeply depressed, ate junk food and lacked the energy to exercise. It took a conversation with my daughter about what she wanted to be when she grew up to give me the impetus to change. I realised I could not give up on life as my mother had done. I had to do better for her – I had to get help.

I found an inspirational coach and gradually I gained clarity. I established what my values were, what I was passionate about and what I wanted my future to look like. I realised I wanted to be my own boss with the freedom to manage my own time. I found a successful and driven business coach who helped me turn this dream into reality. I wanted to see more of the world, learn a new language, experience new cultures and eventually live in Italy by the sea.

 

With my coach’s help I also identified misguided beliefs that prevented me from fulfilling my goals.  I had an internal negative voice who held me back and I decided to call her Bertha. She made me feel like an imposter, that I wasn’t worthy and led me to compare myself with others in a negative way. I learnt to control her.

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I discovered that my values were fairness, achievement, growth, humor/fun, collaboration and kindness and that I was passionate about helping the next generation to fulfill themselves.  They were the future – they were my daughter’s future and they were the people who would make a difference in this world. I wanted to support them.

 

I started looking after my own physical and mental health. It started with small steps such as eating well, exercising and practicing mediation but, as my confidence grew, it mushroomed into bigger achievements until now I can truly say I am living my dreams.

I found an inspirational coach and gradually I gained clarity. I established what my values were, what I was passionate about and what I wanted my future to look like. I realised I wanted to be my own boss with the freedom to manage my own time. I found a successful and driven business coach who helped me turn this dream into reality. I wanted to see more of the world, learn a new language, experience new cultures and eventually live in Italy by the sea.

 

With my coach’s help I also identified misguided beliefs that prevented me from fulfilling my goals.  I had an internal negative voice who held me back and I decided to call her Bertha. She made me feel like an imposter, that I wasn’t worthy and led me to compare myself with others in a negative way. I learnt to control her.

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I discovered that my values were fairness, achievement, growth, humor/fun, collaboration and kindness and that I was passionate about helping the next generation to fulfill themselves.  They were the future – they were my daughter’s future and they were the people who would make a difference in this world. I wanted to support them.

 

I started looking after my own physical and mental health. It started with small steps such as eating well, exercising and practicing mediation but, as my confidence grew, it mushroomed into bigger achievements until now I can truly say I am living my dreams.

I now run my own business, have a loving family, a great home and I’ve realised my ambition to see as much of the world as possible. I have a clear direction and purpose to support the next generation to succeed and am on a continuous journey of self-awareness and development. I read everything I can, learn new skills, attend lectures and courses, belong to inspiring networking groups and lead one myself.

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I tell my daughter over and over not give up and that anything is possible if you have a dream, work hard and seek support when you need it.

My second major realisation was that I wanted to be my own boss and run my own business. I wanted the freedom to manage my own time and continuously develop myself so that my business could develop too. I gained support from a successful and driven business coach, who took my initial passion and my dreams and made them a reality.

This new thirst for life made me realise that I wanted to absorb more of it. I wanted to see more of the world, learn a new language, experience new cultures and eventually live in Italy by the sea. Fulfilment.

I am now a coach and business owner; a long-held dream that “Shelia” told me that I could never achieve. The best part is that I get to help and support others to find the same fulfilment in their lives. I now have a clear direction and purpose to support the next generation to succeed. I help professional millennials who feel stuck to figure out what they really want and live a fulfilling life.

I am on a continuous journey of self-awareness and development. I read everything I can, learn new skills and attend lectures and courses. I am a part of many inspiring networking groups and lead one myself. I enjoy every day because I get to travel to all the places I dreamed of visiting, meet new people, and experience new cultures and ways of life. The people I meet are all different but equally amazing and I am always heartened and motivated by all their stories and experiences.

I no longer feel stuck or confused and my confidence is back where it should be despite Shelia trying to have her say every now and again.

I have just bought the house of my dreams and have more time to spend with my daughter. The key message that I tell her over and over again is to not give up – that anything is possible if you have a dream, work hard and reach out for support when you need it.

If you can relate to my story in any way and would like my support to find some clarity to start making changes in your life, I am currently offering complimentary discovery sessions. During this session, we will work out what clarity you need to get unstuck and live a more fulfilling life.

Do you want to live a more fulfilled life or know someone who does?

Let’s talk.